Bjarne Møller, my former boss, says people like me always choose the line of most resistance. It’s in what he calls our ‘accursed nature’. That’s why we always end up on our own. I don’t know. I like being alone. Perhaps I have grown to like my self-image of being a loner, too….I think you have to find something about yourself that you like in order to survive. Some people say being alone is unsociable and selfish. But you’re independent and you don’t drag others down with you, if that’s the way you’re heading. Many people are afraid of being alone. But it made me feel strong, free and invulnerable.”
Source: The Redeemer by Jo Nesbø
Originally found this quote at Goodreads.
Interesting quote Keishon. The word ‘idiot’ comes from the Greek ιδιώτης meaning private (person). Even now in Gk culture, they are very suspicious of loners and fond of large group activities. I think certainly in England, the ‘loner’ is far more accepted. Is this true in the US?
Yes, Sarah, I think that assertion is true. There was an article that came out about a month ago that more people are choosing to live alone. To live alone does not mean one is “lonely.” I’d classify myself as a loner.
Keishon – Oh, that is an interesting quote! Thanks for sharing it. A fascinating perspective on being alone…
Thanks Margot
I was catching up on my too-neglected blog reading and came upon this. Great quote! I like it both for the perspective on being alone and also because it reminds me just how much I admire Nesbo’s writing.
Hi Lynn! Great to *see* you here.
That quote almost demands some introspection from both sides of the social aisle. My world demands performance as a loner and a social magnet, a team player and a solo operator. I can appreciate the qualities and advantages of being a loner but can’t imagine myself staying there all the time.